Patience
Patience has not always been my forte....actually lack of it has been quite my "strength" at times in my life....my husband will support me on this one. I think to my credit, I have learned to have an extreme amount of patience with my own children and at work it is an absolute necessity. Within ten minutes I could have a student swearing in my office and then talk to their parent (apple doesn't fall from the tree-great expression)screaming and swearing at me on the phone, so patience is a necessity there.
So, I've been analyzing this patience thing this week.....
When we are children (unless it is by nature that you were born with it), we don't have much patience. We want what we want and we want it now and most of the time the reason we get frustrated is that for some reason (we can't verbalize at a young age, we can't drive before 16, we can't work until 16, we have to sit in school all day, our parents say no to us etc.)we can't physically or emotionally figure out how to or are limited to getting what we want.
Middle age (who knows what that really is these days)....This is when we can get what we want physically and emotionally....we can drive, we work, so we have money, we can control a lot more than we could as children and at this point that I am at....I feel more patient than I ever did previously in my life (I think).
Then there is older age....Dad.....you would think that patience grows stronger as you gain experience and wisdom, learning from life as you go. I think to a degree it does, but I think we also regress in that area because when you think about it....we are losing more control over certain things. For one thing, the body can't possible function as it has all of our lives. Although we gain the freedom to not work (and if things went right for us in life we are able to sustain that way financially), we start to get lost in the shuffle of life. Dr.'s and professionals think they can tell us anything and we won't question (I've seen it with my Dad), or people think they can drive faster and move quicker and out move the elderly in stores or parking lots. The elderly are quite similar to children who cannot get what they need/want when they need it/want it.
Hidden message - Damn, I better enjoy where I'm at now because I don't want to go back and I don't know that I want to be way forward either!!!!!
So, I've been analyzing this patience thing this week.....
When we are children (unless it is by nature that you were born with it), we don't have much patience. We want what we want and we want it now and most of the time the reason we get frustrated is that for some reason (we can't verbalize at a young age, we can't drive before 16, we can't work until 16, we have to sit in school all day, our parents say no to us etc.)we can't physically or emotionally figure out how to or are limited to getting what we want.
Middle age (who knows what that really is these days)....This is when we can get what we want physically and emotionally....we can drive, we work, so we have money, we can control a lot more than we could as children and at this point that I am at....I feel more patient than I ever did previously in my life (I think).
Then there is older age....Dad.....you would think that patience grows stronger as you gain experience and wisdom, learning from life as you go. I think to a degree it does, but I think we also regress in that area because when you think about it....we are losing more control over certain things. For one thing, the body can't possible function as it has all of our lives. Although we gain the freedom to not work (and if things went right for us in life we are able to sustain that way financially), we start to get lost in the shuffle of life. Dr.'s and professionals think they can tell us anything and we won't question (I've seen it with my Dad), or people think they can drive faster and move quicker and out move the elderly in stores or parking lots. The elderly are quite similar to children who cannot get what they need/want when they need it/want it.
Hidden message - Damn, I better enjoy where I'm at now because I don't want to go back and I don't know that I want to be way forward either!!!!!
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