Fear of letting go

I think from the moment our kids are born we begin the process of letting go....for the longest time they are attached at the hip and when you get to number four it feels like they will never let go, but at the same time, every so often there is a tug to move away from us and become their own person...especially during adolescents.....how far do we let them move? How do we know when it's too far or beyond safety versus our comfort zone? How do we know if we have given them all the tools and lectures to ensure they will make the right choices? How do we make sure if they make a poor choice that it is not one that will scar them for a long time or life? How do we find the strength to be there for them continuously if they make the wrong choices, or as they run into failures and try to build themselves back up again? How do we protect our children and yet allow them to grow into who they will be?

I don't know that anyone has the answers....and the worst part is that what works for one doesn't necessarily work for another......they are all different, so even if you think you have the hang of it, it changes with number 2, number 3 and God help us with number 4. Any shared wisdom at this point would be appreciated.....

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  1. BobMay 19, 2009 at 9:46 AM

    Nobody has the answers but thus far your "guesses" have been pretty darn good!

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  2. MomMay 23, 2009 at 8:25 PM

    The wisdom one needs to answer these questions is the same wisdom one needs to ask them, and that wisdom is born from generations of love. Aunt Kate

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